I am so proud of you for sharing your truth. I am so proud of you for putting yourself out there to support these other two women whom you didn't know. I am so proud of you as a strong amazing mum. I am so proud of how you fight injustices and women's equalities for us all. You are my role model. Love your little sis x
IT'S OUT. IT'S PUBLIC. Now let's see how people handle that a woman, a pretty, blonde one at that, has spoken out against a 'brit pop' rockstar. Let's see who's brave enough to believe and support you and who goes quiet or who argues with you. You, are a trail blazer. I commend you.
I am currently in the middle of a divorce from another abusive, unhinged Britpop ex-lead singer. I fear retribution so I have sent you a private Twitter DM. Thank you so very much for writing this.
Anna.. No words can describe the shame and embarrassment i have today after reading this bravely written piece. I've spent time in Marks company (most notably last Friday), and after this morning, It will never happen again. I have nothing but admiration for you and the other ladies that have taken the time to speak out, and allow us to see the man behind the mask..
My friends and I had tickets to see them on Saturday when we saw this surface today. Needless to say we are no longer going. So sorry you have had to put up with this and thank you for speaking out!
We already know Morriss is a lying bastard which he in a roundabout way concedes to judging by what he said to the Guardian. So why should we believe him when he denies the physical abuse? He tries to blame it all on the pandemic. He's still gaslighting and still lying and obviously has not one jot of remorse. Sadly the world is now full of dishonest self serving scum who seem able to justify their awful behaviour to themselves and see honesty as a mug's game.
I'm sorry to admit that I too was totally taken in by him. He approached me, used the fact that I liked their music as a way in. I was in no way as deeply involved as you so my suffering was minimal in comparison, yet I was still left with zero self esteem and years later I've not had any confidence to start a relationship with anyone. I once asked how he'd feel if someone treated his daughter in the same way he'd treated me but it didn't cut through. He claimed it was not his intention to hurt anyone but blah blah blah. He should seek therapy for his personality disorder in the hope he learns how his behaviour affects people. But he won't.
Glad to hear you are doing okay now though and thanks for sharing your experience openly x
I can’t thank you enough for having the courage to share this. Your story resonates with me and has given me the realisation that I can (in time) hold my head high. The mistruths of my ex have been drip fed to anyone and everyone I know. Our children, my family, my employers, friends…I feel deeply embarrassed and ashamed and have a need to hide myself from any social presence..virtually or actually. I can’t deny what is claimed of me to others or defend my honour as I am certain I’ll not be believed - I’ve even come to question my own truth about what actually happened in our 20 odd years ‘together’ and subsequent break up. The shame of my naivety and knowing how others view me because of the slur he tells are overwhelming. I hope one day to find a fraction of your courage and share my story. Til then, thank you for helping me to realise I’m far from unique in this experience. Your words will reach and help others far more than you’ll realise, I suspect.
I read your incredible piece feeling horrified but knowing exactly what was coming next and how you feel, all at the same time. I too am one of those women who, for whatever reason, had always attracted, and been attracted to, narcissists and gaslighters. After 3 long term relationships with these types of men a switch flicked, and I threw the last one out and never looked back. 6 years single now. Mostly happily. I miss intimacy sometimes, but I'd miss my peace of mind more if I got involved with someone similar. N I just can't take that risk. Which is sad, but it is what it is. Wishing you and the other amazing ladies and your kids all the love in the world, in whatever shape it comes. Thanks for writing this, I know I'm not alone now. And not bonkers.xx
No… you definitely aren’t alone and there are a lot of narcissistic personality disorder ppl around. If you’ve attracted one you’re likely to attract others as they seek out a certain personality type. Until you recognize all the signs, it can keep you from being able to move on in relationships. I am genuinely happy for you that you’ve found happiness in your own self. If you wish to have another relationship tho… pls don’t give these a$$hats the power to stop you. CBT can offer some great help and insight into why you’re unwilling to pursue something you want and miss, and give u the power to spot what is happening that you may have missed the first few tries around. I urge u to keep moving forward and not give away this power… unless it is 💯 what *you* want for yourself… in which case, just be your best self ❤️
This is so heartbreaking to read. I'm so, so sorry to hear what you're going through. I am so proud of you for telling your story and exposing the truth. The kicker is everything. Sending love to you and your daughter x
Wow. What a dick he sounds. I’m so sorry for your daughter and you and what you’ve been through. I’ve managed to keep my husband’s affairs from my similarly aged daughter so far, but it’ll come out eventually. So many similarities in our stories; so many awful men who don’t value what they have. Feel a little sick about how “If…” is one of ‘our’ songs it must be said.
Thank you for being brave and sharing your story. It's helped me to understand that experiences in my last relationship mught have been emotional abuse..he did not put his hands on me but he used his position as a drummer in a touring band to pull women and then gaslight me, lie and put my body at risk by having unprotected sex with countless women. He spread lies about me and made me thing I was crazy. He broke my self esteem, confidence, he spoke about other women in bed then pursued and slept with them. He slept with old women that are friends with my parents. Like you I was told I should have known what musicians are like. I still bump into people who relay what a psycho I am (words and stories they have heard from him) yet I stay quiet becuase I worry about how others will see me as a bitter, crazy woman. The messages and texts from him and the other women are so familiar. It changes who you are as a person, its took me a couple of years to forget the hurt and the anxiety that comes from a person like that. He lied about seeing other women and made me feel dellusional and paranoid, at times he made me feel evil. Even the day after my misscarriage in hospital he refused to bring me painkillers becauce he "needed to grieve" so he could cheat. He blamed it all on still being in love with his famous actress ex (who he also cheated on and continues to do now.)
I hope that you and the other women heal. Thank you for sharing this loudly and openly. The music industry needs to stop validating and enabling this behaviour. I cant imagine experiencint everything you have - you are a string, beautiful warrior. To know that I'm not alone in my experiences and hurt has alrrady helped me shed some shame today. I feel your story is going to touch so many women - thank you so much.
I have a narcissistic musician ex who knows Mark, wrote an entire album about how horrendous I was and only complete strangers got to listen to his lies wrapped up in a beautiful melody. Sorry for what you went through but thank you for having the courage to speak out.
I rather naively didn't know what Mark Morriss was like, he was just the singer in a band I loved and have seen play live a number of times. I feel a bit stupid about that. I believe you and I support you. That's all.
Anonymous: ‘Never meet your heroes.’ Comes to mind 💔 I think the courage of the author has already impacted several lives for the better, as you said. I wish you the best as well.
Thank you for sharing your story, Anna. The sharing of this has impacted a lot of people in a positive way - and unified a lot of ppl who have probably felt alone. I’m sorry for what you experienced at his hands and I’m glad you are free of him now.
Written to his agent. Not booking him again.
Well done
Richard
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I am so proud of you for sharing your truth. I am so proud of you for putting yourself out there to support these other two women whom you didn't know. I am so proud of you as a strong amazing mum. I am so proud of how you fight injustices and women's equalities for us all. You are my role model. Love your little sis x
IT'S OUT. IT'S PUBLIC. Now let's see how people handle that a woman, a pretty, blonde one at that, has spoken out against a 'brit pop' rockstar. Let's see who's brave enough to believe and support you and who goes quiet or who argues with you. You, are a trail blazer. I commend you.
I am currently in the middle of a divorce from another abusive, unhinged Britpop ex-lead singer. I fear retribution so I have sent you a private Twitter DM. Thank you so very much for writing this.
Very curious! Why are they all so damaged?
Anna.. No words can describe the shame and embarrassment i have today after reading this bravely written piece. I've spent time in Marks company (most notably last Friday), and after this morning, It will never happen again. I have nothing but admiration for you and the other ladies that have taken the time to speak out, and allow us to see the man behind the mask..
My friends and I had tickets to see them on Saturday when we saw this surface today. Needless to say we are no longer going. So sorry you have had to put up with this and thank you for speaking out!
That you, Mark?
We already know Morriss is a lying bastard which he in a roundabout way concedes to judging by what he said to the Guardian. So why should we believe him when he denies the physical abuse? He tries to blame it all on the pandemic. He's still gaslighting and still lying and obviously has not one jot of remorse. Sadly the world is now full of dishonest self serving scum who seem able to justify their awful behaviour to themselves and see honesty as a mug's game.
I'm sorry to admit that I too was totally taken in by him. He approached me, used the fact that I liked their music as a way in. I was in no way as deeply involved as you so my suffering was minimal in comparison, yet I was still left with zero self esteem and years later I've not had any confidence to start a relationship with anyone. I once asked how he'd feel if someone treated his daughter in the same way he'd treated me but it didn't cut through. He claimed it was not his intention to hurt anyone but blah blah blah. He should seek therapy for his personality disorder in the hope he learns how his behaviour affects people. But he won't.
Glad to hear you are doing okay now though and thanks for sharing your experience openly x
I can’t thank you enough for having the courage to share this. Your story resonates with me and has given me the realisation that I can (in time) hold my head high. The mistruths of my ex have been drip fed to anyone and everyone I know. Our children, my family, my employers, friends…I feel deeply embarrassed and ashamed and have a need to hide myself from any social presence..virtually or actually. I can’t deny what is claimed of me to others or defend my honour as I am certain I’ll not be believed - I’ve even come to question my own truth about what actually happened in our 20 odd years ‘together’ and subsequent break up. The shame of my naivety and knowing how others view me because of the slur he tells are overwhelming. I hope one day to find a fraction of your courage and share my story. Til then, thank you for helping me to realise I’m far from unique in this experience. Your words will reach and help others far more than you’ll realise, I suspect.
Stay strong x
I read your incredible piece feeling horrified but knowing exactly what was coming next and how you feel, all at the same time. I too am one of those women who, for whatever reason, had always attracted, and been attracted to, narcissists and gaslighters. After 3 long term relationships with these types of men a switch flicked, and I threw the last one out and never looked back. 6 years single now. Mostly happily. I miss intimacy sometimes, but I'd miss my peace of mind more if I got involved with someone similar. N I just can't take that risk. Which is sad, but it is what it is. Wishing you and the other amazing ladies and your kids all the love in the world, in whatever shape it comes. Thanks for writing this, I know I'm not alone now. And not bonkers.xx
No… you definitely aren’t alone and there are a lot of narcissistic personality disorder ppl around. If you’ve attracted one you’re likely to attract others as they seek out a certain personality type. Until you recognize all the signs, it can keep you from being able to move on in relationships. I am genuinely happy for you that you’ve found happiness in your own self. If you wish to have another relationship tho… pls don’t give these a$$hats the power to stop you. CBT can offer some great help and insight into why you’re unwilling to pursue something you want and miss, and give u the power to spot what is happening that you may have missed the first few tries around. I urge u to keep moving forward and not give away this power… unless it is 💯 what *you* want for yourself… in which case, just be your best self ❤️
Thank you for your kind words ❤
This is so heartbreaking to read. I'm so, so sorry to hear what you're going through. I am so proud of you for telling your story and exposing the truth. The kicker is everything. Sending love to you and your daughter x
Wow. What a dick he sounds. I’m so sorry for your daughter and you and what you’ve been through. I’ve managed to keep my husband’s affairs from my similarly aged daughter so far, but it’ll come out eventually. So many similarities in our stories; so many awful men who don’t value what they have. Feel a little sick about how “If…” is one of ‘our’ songs it must be said.
Thank you for being brave and sharing your story. It's helped me to understand that experiences in my last relationship mught have been emotional abuse..he did not put his hands on me but he used his position as a drummer in a touring band to pull women and then gaslight me, lie and put my body at risk by having unprotected sex with countless women. He spread lies about me and made me thing I was crazy. He broke my self esteem, confidence, he spoke about other women in bed then pursued and slept with them. He slept with old women that are friends with my parents. Like you I was told I should have known what musicians are like. I still bump into people who relay what a psycho I am (words and stories they have heard from him) yet I stay quiet becuase I worry about how others will see me as a bitter, crazy woman. The messages and texts from him and the other women are so familiar. It changes who you are as a person, its took me a couple of years to forget the hurt and the anxiety that comes from a person like that. He lied about seeing other women and made me feel dellusional and paranoid, at times he made me feel evil. Even the day after my misscarriage in hospital he refused to bring me painkillers becauce he "needed to grieve" so he could cheat. He blamed it all on still being in love with his famous actress ex (who he also cheated on and continues to do now.)
I hope that you and the other women heal. Thank you for sharing this loudly and openly. The music industry needs to stop validating and enabling this behaviour. I cant imagine experiencint everything you have - you are a string, beautiful warrior. To know that I'm not alone in my experiences and hurt has alrrady helped me shed some shame today. I feel your story is going to touch so many women - thank you so much.
I have a narcissistic musician ex who knows Mark, wrote an entire album about how horrendous I was and only complete strangers got to listen to his lies wrapped up in a beautiful melody. Sorry for what you went through but thank you for having the courage to speak out.
I rather naively didn't know what Mark Morriss was like, he was just the singer in a band I loved and have seen play live a number of times. I feel a bit stupid about that. I believe you and I support you. That's all.
Anonymous: ‘Never meet your heroes.’ Comes to mind 💔 I think the courage of the author has already impacted several lives for the better, as you said. I wish you the best as well.
Thank you for sharing your story, Anna. The sharing of this has impacted a lot of people in a positive way - and unified a lot of ppl who have probably felt alone. I’m sorry for what you experienced at his hands and I’m glad you are free of him now.